June 30, 2008 at 8:23 pm (Family, Rhino)
A lot has changed over here in the past week.
I had my gall bladder removed today. The drugs provided are worth the price of admission.
WB is officially gone till August 23rd. And then? Packing to go to University August 30th.
Rhino will not be moving to Ottawa but telecommuting and only travelling there for 3 days a week.
We are working with the lawyer to move WG into our house full time ASAP. This is a story on its own.
Back with more tomorrow when I can focus better on the keys:)
June 24, 2008 at 10:01 pm (Family)
While we are excited, we are also overwhelmed. Everything for all 4 of us is about to change dramatically and while talking about it over the week end was one thing – it’s now fact.
I want to thank all of you for your words of wisdom, support and friendship.
June 23, 2008 at 8:06 pm (Family, Rhino, Wonder Boy)
We shopped till we dropped on Saturday and made quite a dent in Rhino’s credit card – thanks hon! We bought a lovely dress, shoes, purse, shawl and jewellery. A visit to La Senza Girl without Rhino was had as well. Neither WG or Rhino were comfortable with him being there while she picked out lingerie.
I convinced her to buy some capris and tops, as well as some cute sandals. To say WG was overwhelmed by everything was evident when she started to cry in one of the change rooms. After sniffing back a few tears myself and giving her a quick hug, I told her to suck it up as we were burning day light. I do believe I am already falling in love with this young lady.
Sunday was my Mom’s 65th party at my place and was fun but tiring. Do you know how annoying it is to make food you can’t eat? Very! Everyone had a fantastic time and my Mom was beyond happy that we went to the “trouble” for her. Spare me. If we hadn’t I never would of heard the end of it:)
WG was invited and came for about two hours. She seemed overwhelmed by my family at first – which is any sane person’s initial reaction to the craziness – but she eventually found a niche pushing WB’s buttons. Honestly, the ease with which she is fitting in with us astounds me. And reconfirms my earlier feelings – she is a part of our family regardless.
Today has been chaotic. I had to work, find the time to finish getting WB ready to leave for camp at 5pm and wait on pins and needles for the DNA results. Sadly, we won’t know till tomorrow.
WB has opted to spend this week at camp for training and come home Friday night. He wants to be here for my surgery on Monday, help with reorganzing living space if needed and/or spend some time with Rhino if he is moving. That’s right, if he moves. Everything is on hold right now while we wait.
And tonight I am addressing all my sister’s wedding invitations. Yes, I’m a sucker. 150 wedding invitations and reply cards to address by Wednesday. May require some vodka.
June 20, 2008 at 8:52 pm (Family, Rhino)
So Rhino took WG (Wonder Girl) for lunch after the traumatic DNA testing. And they bonded. To the point that if this is not his daughter, he will be maintaing contact. His words:
“She’s funny, smart and almost as sarcastic as you. I love her. And she skateboards!! And she loves R&B!! Doesn’t matter if I’m her Dad or not, we’re staying in touch and you are going to meet her as well. She hasn’t had it easy and she tries to hide it. She needs someone like you and WB in her life regardless of circumstance.”
I love this man.
Apparently WG was wearing ill fitting clothes and had not had a haircut in 4 months. Rhino fixed the haircut factor this afternoon. She was trying to make everything sound rainbows and kittens about her life but Rhino kept poking holes in it. Some of the revelations:
Her Mom repeatedly goes out any given night of the week and may or not come home. If she comes home, it’s usually with male company. She has missed school trips because of no money. She is not attending her Grade 8 grad next week because of no money for a dress or the grad ticket.
My question? If the father of your child is as easy to find as opening a f%^&ing phone book, why not tell him sooner, rather than let your child live this way? I get being broke. Been there. I get being a single mom. Been there. I get being stressed out, lonely and nearing breaking point. Been there. I don’t get not doing whatever needs to be done to make sure your child is taken care of.
To quell the anger that is building within me everytime I hear something else about this situation, I told Rhino to call WG and tell her we would pick her up Saturday morning at 10am. Assuming she’s ok with me, we’re going to buy that girl a dress, shoes, purse, jewellery and some fab underwear for next week and whatever else she happens to like. And I contacted the office at the school and scored 4 tickets to Grad. She’s going and the three of us will be there to cheer her on if no one else is. If her Mom wants to go and can fit it into her “busy” schedule, WB will stay home.
Rhino is right. It no longer matters whether WG is or isn’t part of him. WG is about to become a permanent part of Josie World if she chooses.
June 20, 2008 at 1:43 pm (Rhino, The Ex)
First, I’m sorry for worrying anyone. Was not my intention to create drama.
We’ve been experiencing a great deal of upheaval here since Wednesday and while I am maintaining an outward appearance of “I’m ok” – I can barely form a coherent thought on the inside.
Rhino discovered he had a 13 year old daughter Wednesday night. Apparently her mother (an ex of Rhino’s) found his contact info and gave it to her. The young girl called my house looking for Rhino Wednesday night. When I offered to take a message and pass it on, she referred to herself as his daughter. I assumed one of his buddies was playing a prank.
I emailed Rhino the message, along with a list of things we needed to do this week end. Within 5 minutes my phone rang. He recognized the last name but wanted to make sure I got the first name right. He thought I had taken a message from his ex. I clarified the name and mentioned that it was a young girl that called, not a woman.
This is the point where my stomach started doing the roller coaster.
He called me back 30 minutes later saying he had a flight home first thing in the morning. Oh and that girl? Yeah, she’s a daughter I never knew I had.
Cue full blown nausea.
What I know at this point:
The “mother” has decided she’s tired of all the responsibility and thinks it’s Rhino’s turn.
Rhino and his “daughter” are getting DNA testing done today before we go any further.
She attends the same school as WB and they live 5 blocks from us.
Needless to say, Rhino is in a state of shock. He is one of the most honourable men I know and the fact that he has had a daughter out there for 13 years that he was not supporting is killing him. The fact that this woman kept her from him for 13 years has made him angrier than I have ever witnessed.
He called “the Ex” last night and there was a lot of yelling, swearing and a slamming of the phone at the end. Suffice it to say this woman basically wants to dump her child as it’s become a hindrance in her life. That alone makes me want to move this girl into our home ASAP – DNA or not.
So we are now sitting and waiting. We hope to have the results by Monday – Tuesday. This week end is going to involve a lot of “what if” talks and some serious drinking. I know I shouldn’t but I figure a couple vodkas are worth the subsequent pain. I’m in need of some numbness.
June 19, 2008 at 8:57 pm (Stuff)
This is one of those posts.
Things have done a 180 at Josie World and for me to put it all into words will require another day.
Nothing like a move date or a pregnancy.
June 17, 2008 at 8:51 pm (Stuff, Wonder Boy, Work)
Things have been beyond busy of late.
I have officially booked my surgery for June 30th. In and out the same day which makes me very happy. On my arse at home for the remainder of the week and then back to the office. I say back to the office, as I will be working from home Wed thru Friday.
WB has his last day of school tomorrow and then exams start on Thursday. He will officially be done high school at 11:30am Monday June 23rd. On the road to this momentous day, my dining room table has been overrun with pop cans, junk food wrappers, crumpled balls of paper, text books, assorted scientific calculators and electronic gadgets. This is how my son studies. I wish I had a door to shut so I didn’t have to look.
On the 24th he is officially off to camp for the summer and other than the occaisional weekend, will not be back till August 23rd. And then a week later – off to University.
Our 2 COO’s are here from the US and one of them is quite out spoken. In front of the wanker, the following has been said:
“I understand Josie is the glue that holds this office together.”
“I often say, if the wanker is to be congratulated for something – Josie probably did it.”
“We’ll find out in 2 weeks if wanker can hold it together without Josie to hold his hand.”
I think I love this man:)
June 12, 2008 at 11:36 pm (Uncategorized)
I had the following conversation with WB last night:
WB: Did you send in my pic for the University ID?
Me: No. Why would I have sent in YOUR ID?
WB: They sent me a letter saying they never got it. I figured cause I showed it to you, you would take care of it.
Me: That was 2 months ago!! I told you to go get a pic taken and gave you money. Where’s the picture?
WB: I forgot. Why didn’t you remind me? I only have 10 days now.
Me: And you wonder why I’m worried about you on your own. Book smart, reality dense.
This morning via text:
WB: Where’s my camera?
Me: I’ll bite. Where’s your camera?
WB: Seriously Mom, where did I put it.
Me: Re-read that text.
WB: Just tell me where I would’ve put it!!!!!! I’m going to be late for school.
Me: No clue as it’s YOURS and I’m at work.
WB: Thanks for nothing.
Me: I worry for this country’s future.
This afternoon via text:
WB: Hey, can you get Dad a father’s day card for me.
Me: No.
WB: I’m busy. Please!
Me: Doing?
WB: At the lake for the festival. Love you forever if you do.
Me: Empty promise. I’m footing the bill for school.
Me: Cripes are you lazy.
WB: You rock! Love ya.
Me: I didn’t say yes.
…..no reply. And yes I bought the card. A little worried about him functioning on his own. Scurvy anyone?
June 11, 2008 at 11:56 pm (Friends, Rhino, Wonder Boy)
WB is all for me moving to Ottawa. This surprised me a little.
Although he has been quick to point out I was apprehensive about him moving to Kingston for school (not that far from Ottawa for my US friends) and now that’s where I’m going. I was doubly quick to point out that as a parent it’s “Do as I say, not as I do.” Yeah right.
Alison, I will bring my own vodka hon. No worries:) Mim- pizza/bbq definitely. Jen – hang onto the Toronto Guide books, I’ll still be here then and can’t wait:)
On an unexpected side note, my 2 month late review has been scheduled for early next week. By me? No, when I asked it was a “trivial matter he had no time for.” It was scheduled by the wanker. Coinciding visit the following day by the big guys from the US an incentive? I think so.
Bell Canada? Our “major” phone company here? Needs to kiss my ass. Lost 3 hours of my life today trying to transfer our Business lines successfully. At one point had no phones. At another, no ability to send out a fax. This shouldn’t be this hard. Really.
Rhino needs to stop sending me MLS listings of homes in Ottawa. All I’m wanting to do is reno mine. Which brings the bigger issue I just realized – I have to sell my house if I move. Yes, I totally forgot that fact.
Tomorrow? A wonderful story of a long suffering mother of an 18yr old and his back ass version of reality.
June 10, 2008 at 11:11 pm (Family, Rhino, Wonder Boy)
Lord do you people know me. And boy did I know Alison and Mim would be all over the move closer:)
It’s not all about control, more I’ve been solely responsible for WB and I for so long………I don’t know how to let someone else take “the reins.” And Rhino doesn’t want control so much as to offer me the luxury of not having to work multiple jobs to pay the bills and to take the time to figure out what I want to be when I grow up.
Rhino’s right in that WB will be off making his own life. My Mom’s right in that now is the time for me to have my own life. Everyone is right in that it’s a 4 hr drive away.
And the fantasies of telling the wanker? Of only giving the legally required 2 weeks, even though I would know long before hand? Lovely. Absolutely lovely.
Things are still in early negotiations but suffice it to say, they are swaying towards a move. A move. Not a wedding, a move. Baby steps people.
And Rhino, if you’re reading this? You still have some selling to do, so don’t think you’ve won.
